Sometimes when relationships are rock or challenging to navigate, a few small words can help individuals and their loved ones make it through difficult problems. Whether or not the author knew these quotes would be applied to addiction, their wise yet often simplistic words can provide insight for those who struggle and those who love them.
Moreover, loving a person with an active addiction (or sometimes even one in recovery) can be challenging. Many times, a person needs all the emotional support they can get. One of the things some individuals do to feel better is by reading quotes that are ideal for what they are going through.
The following is a small selection of quotes that may be relevant for those who have loved another person with substance abuse or addiction problems.
Loving an Addict Quotes
“Love is a tough, ever hopeful thing, not easily destroyed.” ~ Kirby Wright
“Take that big leap forward without hesitation, without once looking back. Simply forget the past and forge toward the future.” ~ Alyson Noel
“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
“Hearts are tough, Most times they don’t break. Most times they are only bend.” ~ Stephen King
“I can’t promise that in our relationship you won’t face any problems, but I surely can promise that you won’t face them alone!” ~ Rose Hathway
“If you truly love someone, you will not become their enemy. You will become their guardian angel.” ~ Shannon L. Elder
“There are times when two people need to step apart from one another, but there is no rule that says they have to turn and fire.” ~ Robert Brault
“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
“Love is tough. Love survives through the worst of situations, and thrives through hope. Even when things seem hopeless love will find it’s way.” ~ Malika E Nura
“You are at once both the quiet and the confusion of my heart.” ~ Franz Kafka
“Words ride on the energy of tone, its warmth or coldness; think of tone as the music of how words are expressed. You want this music to be soulful, whether you’re giving sweet talk or tough love.” ~ James Cook
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person…forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder
“The hard thing is, you try to help them but still, you’re the bad one.” ~ Jazz Zo Marcellus
On Tough Love
The notion of tough love has been around for a long time, but it is sometimes misinterpreted. It is not done out of anger or revenge. Tough love isn’t a formula or quick fix to the heartache and pain a person faces. Still, it’s the right thing to do and the only healthy option in certain situations, particularly those regarding addiction and destructive behavior.
Instead, tough love is about caring about and emotionally supporting a person conditionally but not enabling harmful behavior. It’s about setting one’s own personal boundaries and not sacrificing oneself without withdrawing compassion and healthy support from another individual.
“Tough love may be tough to give, but it is a necessity of life and assurance of positive growth.” ~ T.F. Hodge
“To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.” ~ Henry Cloud
“Real love is tough love. Why? Because it’s never easy. It hurts the giver far more than the receiver.” ~ Bobby W. Miller
“Sometimes the easiest way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem.” ~ Jonathan Mead
“Sometimes you must seem to hurt something in order to do good for it.” ~ Susan Cooper
“You said you wanted the truth. Now, what are you willing to do with it?” ~ Monica Zands
“They take you on the road without warning, sack over your head and into the back of a van. Difficult love, but differentiating at an incredible success rat.” ~ Tim Dorsey
“Tough love means being firm but kind while setting boundaries and sticking to them.” ~ Anonymous
“Tough love does not mean to be mean. It’s called tough love because accepting the impossibility of changing someone else’s behavior is tough to do.” ~ Anonymous
“You need to stop doing things for someone when you find out it’s expected rather than appreciated.” ~ Unknown