Quotes are great tools to comfort and teach during tough times. Quotes about alcoholism can be sources of hope and support for non-alcoholics who are trying to understand a loved one’s struggle with alcohol addiction.
These quotes are not meant to be read once and discarded. They are meant to be kept in your thoughts during hopeless moments, to comfort you during times of pain and to remind you that you are not alone.
• “Not everyone trapped by alcohol is an alcoholic.”
If you are a loved one of an alcoholic, this quote sums up your current situation. You are probably feeling helpless, hopeless, and trapped by your loved one’s bond with alcohol. Alcoholism is a bond, and like any bond, it is strong, powerful, and seemingly unbreakable.
Finding comfort and strength through education and support will help guide you through the ups and downs and the twists and turns that you will encounter. Keep words of wisdom close by to remind you that there is a light at the end of the bottle and that you and your loved one can make it through addiction.
• “When you realize that you are, and always have been, the second choice.”
Remind yourself that as the loved one of an alcoholic, you are not currently the most important thing in their life. An alcoholic is unable to feel much beyond their addiction to alcohol. You will be second for a while.
Understanding this will help remind you to protect, to take care of, and to keep loving yourself. This will give you the strength to continue loving and supporting someone who, at this time, loves drinking alcohol more than you.
• “If an addict is pleased with you…you’re probably enabling their behavior. If an addict is pissed at you…you’re probably saving their life.”
Loving and supporting an alcoholic does not always look or feel like love. It may even feel like the complete opposite. Taking away part or all of your relationship with an alcoholic is sometimes the best wakeup call that you can send.
Enabling an alcoholic by making excuses for their poor choices, hiding it from other friends and family, and/or fixing the problems caused by their drinking will make your loved one happy with you, but will only encourage more of the same.
• “Addicts don’t deny that they’re using. They deny that it’s hurting others.”
Denial is a survival tactic for an alcoholic. It is another sign and a classic symptom of alcoholism. Denial is the way they attempt to convince others that they are in control of their drinking. For an alcoholic, it is self-preserving to deny that their alcohol abuse is hurting others. The last thing that an alcoholic wants to take on is more guilt and denial is the cure for guilt.
For you, denial is ironically the opposite of survival. It is extremely hurtful because it will leave you with a sense of hopelessness.
• “I didn’t cause it. I can’t control it. I can’t cure it. But I won’t condone it.”
As a loved one of an alcoholic, don’t let yourself be burdened with guilt. As this quote affirms, it is not your fault. It is very difficult to physically stop an alcoholic from drinking. You can try to encourage your loved one to get help, but you cannot force it. The only thing in your control is how you react to their sickness.
Set boundaries and stick by them. Don’t allow it around you. Remove yourself from the drunk moments. This will keep you safe and sane and will also send the message that you do not support the insanity of the cycle of alcoholism.
The reality…alcoholism is hurtful to not only the alcoholic but also to you. You will feel lonely a lot of the time, but don’t confuse enabling an alcoholic with loving them. They will try to convince you that everything is fine all the time, and this will hurt the most. The best thing you can do to support your loved one is to take care of yourself, even if that means taking yourself away from them. During sober times, you can encourage your loved one to seek help.
When the time is right, encourage them to get help. We are here 24 hours a day. We can help. Call 888-380-0342.